I always hate boring relationships. These are ones that revolve merely on the same activities lasting for months or even years. Relationships should not be boring because if it is, perhaps you might want to reconsider.
A relationship should not always follow an itinerary because it’s supposed to be spontaneous. The spur-of-the-moment adds to its flavor and diminishes the feeling of monotony.
A boring relationship is a frail relationship. That is why it should have a strong foundation. Friendship is a very good example of well-built foundation. However, some say that a friendship is sometimes ruined when one falls for the other. Well again, the principle of “for every rule, there is an exemption” applies.
Who says that once two people become friends they cannot fall in love with each other? Basically, that ‘s a wrong and obsolete notion because as far as I know, love usually and should start with friendship. You will deeply know a person through friendship in the sense that a person is less cautious with his actions because he is comfortable enough that you will not inject prejudice over his deeds. In short, you will catch him/her off guard.
I define love as the junction between admiration and respect. The admiration I am talking about here is not for the physical aspect per se but the entirety of a person. Consequently, after admiring the person, respect will follow.
In radio and televisions shows, there’s what they call dead air that should be avoided. Dead air is one of the worst things that can probably happen to a broadcaster. It is something that happens when a newscaster unintentionally forgets his line or script. This should not happen in a relationship. Usually it happens when the couple runs out of topic to discuss. In a conversation, there should be fluidity. If two people have the same kind enthusiasm, a single topic can multiply into a hundred more without following a script.
HUMOR
Why is humor important in a relationship? It is what we call the icebreaker. Nothing beats humor when it comes to handling a conversation. A person would prefer talking to an idiot having great sense of humor than listening to a bookish person reciting every single topic in the encyclopedia. A relationship cannot survive without humor. It’s good to be serious but do not make it a habit. Seriousness in the long run will eventually lead to boredom. Some women are attracted to guys with great sense of humor. Ninety-eight percent, it’s true!
The power of humor resides in the fact that no matter how tedious a conversation is, when humor is injected, it will eventually lightens it up. Humor is innate to a person. However, almost everything in this world can be learned. So I suggest, start learning the art of humor before it is too late.
DATING
I consider dating as the most basic tool in maintaining a relationship. But, dating in the same place and eating the same food over and over again is considered to be the best way to develop boredom. Women are very attentive to details. Engaging in the same activities for the nth time makes them think of their future with you.
Dating doesn’t always mean expensive restaurants or classy venues. It may sometimes mean exciting activities like hiking, camping, swimming, cycling, mountain climbing or maybe as simple a jogging. Creativity is the secret to an enticing date.
FIGHTS
The imperfections in a relationship make it perfect. A couple cannot do away with fights. It is one way of teaching them the virtue of patience and to value forgiveness. Love is not about who is stronger. It is about who is strong enough to admit that he is weak. Love is not proud. It should always exercise humility. The very concept governing a relationship is the reality that love will not grow without hardships.
Fights are normal but then again, never make it a habit.
JEALOUSY
They say, if you love a person, it is normal to be jealous for a valid reason. Okay, let me repeat that, for a valid reason. The main reason why a person gets jealous roots in the idea of attachment. The more attached you are to a person, the more you will be jealous if you sense a threat to that attachment.
…….to be continued. (haha!)
Jealousy!!!
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